Two years ago, I started talking to this girl. I had known her for a long time, but we had barely talked to each other. It clicked at once and I felt like we could talk about everything. She’s super nice and a really good friend that listens to you every time you need someone to talk to.
Lately, we haven’t talked that much. My small group of really close friends are beginning to split into two smaller groups.
Every time I ask one of them, if they wanna hang out or just talk, they can’t.
“I can’t because I’m meeting the others later today.”
“I can’t because I’m going to her place today.”
“I can’t because we and the guys are going out to eat pizza.”
(They hang out with guys, A LOT!)
I feel like I’m being ditched! And nobody likes to be ditched!
My BFFs are stealing my friend, odd as it sounds.
I haven’t had a real conversation with her in weeks. She’s always hanging out with my BFFs and it bothers me…
I don’t just want my friend back, I want all of us (the two groups) to go back to being one circle of friends!
When I talk to them, I just feel like a huge pain in the ass. I feel like I’m bothering them and nagging about everything.
I’m starting to notice how distant we’re becoming.
The few times I’m alone with one of them, we have almost nothing to talk about!
It’s killing me to think about us not being friends anymore. I don’t want to talk bad about them, but at least I’m noticing it and making an effort to be with them again…
What should I do? I can’t just walk up to them and say, “Hi! I haven’t talked to you in a while, let’s hang out!”
Not that it’s even worth trying. I am sure they have plans for tomorrow and the day after and the day after that, because they always have.
I miss them and I’m getting the feeling that they don’t want to be with us.
I asked one of them today, on the bus, if she wanted to do something today.
She said that she didn’t have any plans and that we could hang out, but that she felt she was forgetting something.
Later, I called and asked if she wanted to come to my place, but she said that she was
1.Going with her parents to her sister’s school.
Or 2. Go to my other friend’s house.
I felt so betrayed! I don’t want to sound like a little kid, but she was super unfair!!! It feels like they’re constantly lying to us.
I just want my friends back. Stop lying.